Comments on: Wedding Presents

By: Rochelle

Rochelle — Fri, 16 Jun 2006 06:50:56 +0000

Agreed. I think the logic most couples getting married (who don’t need the stuff) think that the present is their reward for throwing such a great party. You get cake and an open bar, I get a cappaccino machine. Everybody wins! That said, I didn’t throw a big bash wedding, and I don’t expect presents from everybody either. While we could use everything, the distances involved make this a bit impractical.

What about practical presents though, such as contributions to a down payment on a house? If a couple has everything they need to set up a household, but no money to buy a house, would it be appropriate for them to nix the presents and just for contributions?

By: Lin

Lin — Wed, 14 Jun 2006 00:55:43 +0000

I’m with the above poster on quality We were both in our 30s when we married, each of us had a collection of hand-me-downs and garage sale/Salvation Army housewares that seen better days. So we were grateful for anything “new”
On the other hand, who says gifts have to be about housewares? Some of our friends gave us gift certificates to local restaurants and movie rentals … another friend gave us a gift certificate to a garden store.

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 13 Jun 2006 20:45:36 +0000

Well, the $45 set of pots and pans that I got as a sophomore in college weren’t doing so well after 8 years of use, and the Corelle dinnerware from Target was also chipping and I only had service for four. DH came with nothing (he always used his roommate’s stuff). So shinier and spiffier were definitely part of my decision, but quality more than anything. My parents’ pots and pans have lasted the 33 years since they’ve been married and I’m hoping our set will do anywhere close to that.

The biggest ticket item on our registry was the Kitchenaid Mixer. I didn’t actually expect to get one, but my aunt and grandmother went in on it together because they had been using theirs forever and ever and thought it would be great for me, too. So far I’ve made one cake in the 4 mos. we’ve been married.

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 13 Jun 2006 18:07:43 +0000

Amen! You are not the only one that feels this way. I get so mad when I am out buying gifts for people and the cheapest thing that they have registered for is a twenty-five dollar spoon set. This is particularly maddening when they have been living together for four years and have a ten dollar spoon set that works just fine.

We actually printed out a registery for a couple who had registered for a giant flat screen television. When asked why that was on the registry- well, because they figured maybe a few couples could go in on it and he really wanted one…hmmmm….there is just something wrong with that picture.

I did marry my high school sweetheart and we had nothing- not even a pot or a pan. Registering was great and we registered for things that we knew people could afford. Bigger ticket items (like fine china) were also available, but not a requirement. We married out of college and people seemed to enjoy giving to us and we were greatly appreciative of what we received…